Welcome to today's episode, where we're diving into the common themes of the worst first dates. So many of us have experienced that wretched moment when curiosity just vanishes. As psychologist Alexandra Solomon explains, “Curiosity is where the spark lives.” Unfortunately, modern dating apps and social media often kill that curiosity before the date even starts.

Many daters show up with preconceived notions because they've read profiles full of personal details. This leads to a lackluster conversation where one might think, “What’s left to ask?” Matchmaker Anna Morgenstern points out, “If you’re looking for an ick on a potential date, you’ll find one.” The pressure to match perfectly can create unrealistic expectations and hinder genuine connections.

To combat this, experts suggest embracing curiosity. Instead of relying on apps, consider getting set up by friends or engaging in social activities. Sarah Hensley, a relationship coach, encourages finding romantic partners through hobbies and mutual friends for a more organic spark.

So, what should you ask on a date to ignite that curiosity? Try questions like, “What’s your favorite childhood memory?” or “What made you light up this week?” Remember, the goal is to listen actively and foster a true dialogue.

In the end, whether it’s a bust or a success, each date teaches us something new. Perhaps the best takeaway is to keep that curiosity alive, both in dating and in life.
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